I Can’t Believe This is Happening!

Screen Shot 2013-12-27 at 10.14.58 PMWhen the average person is faced with some kind of traumatic situation, be it a car accident or a physical assault, generally the first thought they have is, “I can’t believe this is happening.”  That thought creates a moment of hesitation, or worse, complete panic.  It may not be a big deal in a traffic accident, but if you are about to get robbed or rapped, that hesitation or panic will result in bad things happening to you.  The bad guy will have the upper hand, because any hesitation on your part allows him to gain an advantage that you will most likely not be able to overcome.

Panic and hesitation are products of lack of training and preparedness.  If you are confident in your ability to defend yourself and you have prepared yourself by acquiring the skills needed, you will be less likely to panic and hesitate.  I remember when I was younger and absolutely hated public speaking.  The solution for me was to prepare and practice to the point that I could deliver the speech in my sleep.  My confidence improved so much that I now thoroughly enjoy public speaking and teaching as long as a prepare beforehand.  (It’s a good thing, because teaching firearms to a large group of people kind of requires some public speaking.)

So work on your personal defense skills, including your handling of a concealed carry firearm, and you will be less likely to panic and hesitate in the face of adversity.  But that’s not the end of the conversation, we also have to develop a different mindset when it comes to crime, and the probability that it will happen to you someday.

Lets take a look a an everyday scenario as an example.  You walk into a room and as you break the plain of the door, somebody jumps out and scares you.  You, not expecting somebody to leap out, jump back and let out a scream.  Now, take the same scenario, but this time you are expecting somebody to leap out and try to scare you.  Instead of jumping back in fear, you laugh at them for their failed attempt at humor and continue walking into the room as you shake your head.  Same set of events unfold, the difference is that in the second scenario, you are expecting it and thus aren’t surprised when it happens.  You don’t hesitate or panic, you just continue on with your business.

Same set of circumstances except in the second instance, you are prepared because you are expecting it.  The same kind of preparedness can occur in your everyday life when faced with a confrontation that the bad guy is thinking will result in him getting the upper hand.  If you are expecting it to happen, when it does, your mind will not say, “I can’t believe this is happening” and you won’t hesitate because you have already reconciled that it is going to happen.  Your mind will say, “here we go,” or, “it’s on,” and your training will take over and you will prevail.  In fact, because most violent criminals don’t expect any resistance or fighting back, their brain will think, “I can’t believe this is happening!”

So prepare and train for “it” to happen and accept the fact right now that sometime in your lifetime, “it’ will happen to you, the odds favor it, and when the day comes, don’t hesitate and don’t panic, just take care of business.

Don’t just survive, thrive!


Carrying a firearm for personal protection brings with it an awesome responsibility.  You have the power to change a person’s world forever, and even the power to take their life.  It is you duty as a responsible gun owner to always obey the cardinal rules of firearms safety and to understand the laws where you live and travel with your gun.  Do your due diligence become educated on the use of force continuum and become proficient with your firearm before you leave home.


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